Until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change, you'll stay the same.

I'm tired of being a hopeless romantic asshole who puts up with assholes.

I've entered a 12 step program for codependency and al-anon.  I don't know how I feel about it.  I know my life is unmanageable...it's nothing I'm proud of.  I'm terrified of changing because I don't know what I'll lose...or what I'll gain...